Day 5: It’s surprisingly hard to write a lot

Rephrasing: it’s surprisingly hard to dedicate time to write every single day in a way that feels worth it. 

As evidenced by my Day 4 post, I have figured out that not every post needs to be important.
I threw a lot of shade to Amy Poehler’s book “Yes Please” because she spends pages of the book complaining how hard it is to write one. But maybe I was being too harsh, and she wasn’t being specific enough. 
If writing isn’t a priority, if it won’t serve an immediate purpose or release or vessel for you, you won’t do it. And even if you do, you won’t do it well. 
I’ve noticed that I make a lot of rules for myself, and I subscribe to them even when they no longer serve a purpose. Some of these rules never did. I had a rule for myself that “doing well” means “achieving at 150%.” That gave me unnecessary pressure and almost crippled me. Once I identified that rule and rewrote it — that doing enough to achieve is doing well — I ended up achieving more because I wasn’t working under the weight of 150% achievement. 
There needs to be a clear why to what you do. Goals must have a real purpose to them. If you don’t love running and you are already healthy and fit, what could possibly drive you to really put in the effort to train for a marathon? You need to WANT it. That’s why I love this “spark joy” concept from the KonMari tidying method. (Omg read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up ASAP.) If you keep things in your home that you don’t LOVE or don’t serve an essential purpose, are you going to feel incredibly happy at home? You have things there that you’re holding onto out of guilt. Get rid of it!
Tidy your home, your habits, your goals, your self-imposed rules. Love it or leave it — or whatever it is that moms and/or proud divorcees looking for a new partner but who aren’t willing to play games. But whatever you do, love it. 

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